When your children reach a certain age, they will be wondering about many things in life, and if Santa is real is one of those things. As a parent, this can be a hard topic to navigate.
Should you tell your 10-year-old son that Santa does not exist? There are many ways to approach this, but the bottom line is that most 10 year-olds are ready to hear the truth about Santa Claus.
If you are still on the fence about if you should tell your son the truth, or how to do it, you can check out these tips and information about telling your child that Santa Claus does not exist.
Reasons To Tell Your 10 Year-Old Son The Truth About Santa
If you are looking for reasons to tell your 10 year-old son, here are some to consider:
1.) You can tell them the real story. The real story of Saint Nicholas is one of unconditional love and giving, and it makes a great story with a wonderful lesson about the magic and spirit if Christmas.
2.) The modern story of Santa Claus can be harmful. It teaches kids to be on the lookout and push their feelings aside in order to be “good” for the sake of getting gifts. It’s more a punishment tool, than a positive story.
3.) Science says we should learn to give, not receive. Many studies have shown that we get more joy from giving to others, especially those less fortunate, than we do from getting things in return. That means that teaching kids to be good in order to get something from Santa may not be the best way to teach them about the love of Christmas. Teaching them to give is better for them!
4.) We shouldn’t lie to kids because it builds mistrust. And while many people argue that lying for fn is not harmful, it sets a bad precedent and makes it harder to teach our kids about the harm in telling lies. This is especially poignant when you consider that many parents use Santa as a punishment for when kids lie to them.
5.) The magic of Christmas isn’t wrapped up in getting toys from an imaginary man. It is much more than that and there can still be magic without Santa involved.
6.) Your kids will still get gifts. Telling your 10 year-old son the truth about Santa Claus won’t take away from them getting presents.
7.) Someone else may tell them. At this age, many kids already know the truth, and you would want your child to hear it from you, not some random kid on the playground or at school. Also, it can embarrass your child if all their friends know the truth and they are the last to put it together. Keep an eye out for what may be happening in your child’s circle of friends to make sure you stay on top of telling them yourself.
Is Your 10 Year-Old Son Ready To Hear The Truth About Santa?
It is no secret that children develop at different stages and ages. What is good for one of your children may not be for your other, and your 10 year-old son may be more or less mature than his peers. That is definitely something to keep in mind when deciding to tell him that Santa is not real.
If you think it is time to tell your child the truth about Santa Claus, follow these tips to determine if they are ready:
Follow Your Child’s Lead– children who have started to put this together usually ask questions to alert you they are thinking that Santa isn’t real.
Just as they will tell you if they are ready by asking questions, they can also let you know they are not ready by denying that their friends are telling the truth or refusing to broach the subject. While you may be ready to tell them, their inability to process it needs to be considered so you don’t hurt them.
Tell Them Before A Friend Does– Again, most kids figure out the truth at this age, and if you are afraid of them being teased, you will want to get them ready for the truth before that conversation comes up with friends at school. You can start to talk to them about Santa well before Christmas so the idea that Father Christmas isn’t real is already swirling in their heads.
How to Explain The Truth About Santa to Your 10 Year-Old Child
If you have determined that it is time to tell your 10 year-old son the truth about Santa Claus, you may be at a loss on how to do it. Many parents have faced this dilemma, and here is how they broke the news:
Tell Them Santa Is For Fun. Just like Harry Potter or a cartoon character, Santa is “real” in that he is fun for people and they like to believe in him. There is nothing wrong with believing in a little bit of magic, even if it’s not real, because it makes people happy, and joy is magical.
He Is Real- Just Not Physical. Tell your children that Santa lives in the hearts of people and through their selfless acts of love and giving. This keeps a beloved character alive, but makes him “not really real.”
Tell Him That Santa Is YOU. You do Santa’s job for him, because the old Santa passed away hundreds of years ago, so it is up to adults to be Santa, now. You can also tell them that they can now be Santa, too, which makes it more fun for them. They are now part of the magic, and what child wouldn’t love that?
Just Tell The Truth. Some kids like the plain truth, and that should be respected.
How to Keep The Truth from Younger Siblings
One of the biggest issues with telling your 10 year-old son the truth about Santa Claus is keeping it quiet from younger children, especially younger siblings. When you tell your child the truth, you should be prepared to talk to them about why they shouldn’t ruin the magic for others.
For many kids, they just want to feel the magic and fun of Christmas, so get them involved! Have them help plan fun and magical surprises for younger siblings to keep them involved with Santa. This will keep them happy, even if they know Santa isn’t real.
Tell them they should remember the magic and ask them how they would have felt if someone ruined it for them. Connecting them to their siblings or other children with empathy is a great way to get them to remain quiet on the truth about Santa.
Ultimately, if your child is ready to hear the truth about Santa Claus, they are also ready and mature enough to keep it a secret for other kids. When you have the talk with your child, it is imperative that you make sure to tell them all the reasons they shouldn’t spill the beans to those you are not ready to hear the truth.
Keeping The Magic Alive
For many parents, the magic of Christmas is diminished when their children no longer believe. You can still do these things to keep the magic alive and enjoy Christmas with your child:
1. If you are religious, put more focus on your faith as the reason for the season. This gives your child a deeper connection to something that isn’t of this world.
2. Get your child involved in community events and volunteering so they can be the “giver”- AKA: SANTA!
3. Create new traditions. You can give your kids things to look forward to by creating family traditions that get you all excited. Bake cookies for neighbors, make a new tree ornament, or go carolling.
4. Make a Christmas bucket list. This will give you all something to look forward to so that you can build anticipation for the fun you will have this season.
5. Get into the fun. Your kids want to have fun with you, and you are much better than Santa, because you are the real Santa! Remember that and bring joy and laughter into your home by being present and ready to spend time with your family.
Keeping the Christmas magic alive doesn’t mean your kids have to believe in Santa Claus, so if you and your 10 year-old son are both ready to have that talk, you can rest easy knowing that your Christmases will still be full of love, giving, and joy.