Same-Sex Union and The Sanctity of Marriage

Does same-sex union destroy the sanctity of marriage? The church has a strong view about this, but do people of today still listen to the church?

It is not impossible for us to live to see a world where gays can marry, openly and legally. More and more nations across the world are coming to terms with the liberalization of laws regarding same-sex marriage.

However, it is no secret that the Catholic church has been contending that the union between two men or two women is contrary to the natural law and that it ostensibly ruins the sanctity of marriage. As a result, the total legalization of gay marriage in all countries across the globe is still on the table.

Even so, it seems that public approval is rising sharply in favor of same-sex marriage, paving the way to its acceptance and recognition today. As a matter of fact, marriage between gay couples is now acknowledged by law in many countries all over the world, including the United States, the United Kingdom, Australia, Germany, France, Canada, Spain, Iceland, and the Netherlands.

Moreover, a recent survey released by the Public Religion Research Institute showed that same-sex marriage earned support from most religious communities in America. Although many people of the new millenium are in favor of permitting gay marriage, the question remains: is this union causing a decay in the sanctity of marriage?

Same-Sex Union and The Sanctity of Marriage

What Does Sanctity Of Marriage Mean?

If we are to seek the biblical definition of marriage, we’ll learn that marriage is not a mere union between two individuals. In Malachi 2:14, it is referred to as a “covenant.” A covenant is a “solemn vow before God.”

“For what reason? Because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt treacherously though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. (Malachi 2:14)”

Sanctity, on the other hand, means holy and sacred. Thus, the sanctity of marriage is supposed to refer to the sacredness of the covenant between a man and a woman.

Why does the church see same-sex marriage as a destruction to the sanctity of marriage?

Marriage is considered as holy and sacred by the church. And to protect the sanctity of marriage, the couple must be united in the service of God.

“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it.’” (Genesis 1:27)

“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)

From these passages, it can easily be understood that God had wanted men and women to become one and procreate. Same-sex marriage, however, does not allow this exact purpose and plan of God. That is why gay marriage is believed to weaken the institution of marriage that is meant to be holy and sacred as designed by God.

Additionally, the Bible speaks of homosexual relationship as an abomination or a disgrace.

“If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death; their blood is upon them.” (Leviticus 20:13)

Such is not what God had wanted us to do. He commands for us to love Him.

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” (Matthew 22:37)

And to love Him is to serve His purpose.

Marriage is one of God’s purposes that he placed on men and women. Restructuring this purpose of marriage by marrying the same sex is equal to tampering with God’s plans for us.

This is how most religious communities view same-sex marriage, and this explains why such union is considered to be a threat to the sanctity of marriage.

So if asked whether same-sex union ruins the sanctity of marriage, in the context of religion, it is probably safe to answer yes.

Same-sex marriage is legal in many countries now. Why?

Today, the views and opinions of the majority of people have shifted. The centuries-old belief that homosexuality is a sin no longer reverberates with the new generation.

In fact, a Gallup survey revealed that 64 percent of Americans agree that same-sex marriage should be legal. Furthermore, people have now acknowledged the existence of gay relationships more than before.

As support for same-sex relationships steadily gains, the church’s fight for the preservation of the sanctity of marriage has been seemingly pulled to the corner. And if this continues, it might only take a matter of years before the “sanctity of marriage” is forgotten.

So what changed?

Society has changed…a lot.

According to a new survey, millenials have had a huge impact in the dramatic rise in support for same-sex relationships. The new generation is apparently more open and accepting of the rights of the LGBT community.

Interestingly, 28 percent of the respondents in the aforementioned survey formerly voted against gay marriage. But today, it seems they have uncovered a new understanding of the matter.

And when these people were asked why they now support same-sex marriage, 32 percent revealed that it was because they knew someone close who identifies as LGBT. Others, comprising about 25 percent, said that maybe they have just grown older and their personal thoughts about it just changed.

What’s even more thought-provoking is that 18 percent of them believe that people should be given the right to be happy and the freedom to make choices for their personal lives. Do you agree?

Meanwhile, in a research paper by Indiana University sociologist Brian Powell, some people were asked the reasons why they oppose same-sex marriage. Surprisingly, the majority of answers turned out to be tied to their belief in God and His teachings.

Some of the answers were: “Because I don’t believe God intended them to be that way, and “Well, they’re sinners.”

It’s no surprise to hear such responses from same-sex marriage opponents. After all, if our religious belief is to be considered, the Bible clearly suggests that homosexual relationship is a sin and it’s wrong.

But then again, our society has shifted and the population of the LGBT community continuously grows. This means that more and more people will be banned from marrying the people they love if we don’t open up to the idea of same-sex marriage. And we don’t want to deprive them of the right to be happy, right?

Well, perhaps the legalization of same-sex marriage as per the Constitution should not be a question anymore. Everybody should be free to marry anyone under the law created by men.

However, we cannot force the church to join same-sex couples in the name of God. We have to respect the beliefs and teachings of our religion.


The sanctity of marriage is important and always will be.

Marriage is designed by God and not by man. He designed it to be sacred and that’s how it should be.

Though we can all agree that we must have equal rights to choose the people we want to live with, our religious beliefs still have a power in our lives. However, nobody is forcing anybody to believe in God and what the Bible says.

Your life, your choices. In the end, we all will see the Judgement Day, and only then can we learn if we actually made the right choices.