Prayer for Marriage: What Is It and Is It Necessary?

Praying is an act of deliberately communicating one’s thoughts to the one he/she worships.

Scientific studies claim that the earliest men used prayers for the main purpose of healing the sick and injured. But today, prayers are not merely concentrated on bettering sickness and injuries.

In a survey by LifeWay Research, it was revealed that 82 percent of Americans pray for their families and friends, while 72 percent pray for guidance in their own troubles.

Around 54 percent pray for their newest blessing, 42 percent pray for their sins, 38 percent pray for other people who are facing current disasters, 37 percent pray to thank God for His greatness, and 36 percent pray for their future. There are also a few people (20%) who pray for others who belong to other religious faith and those who have no faith. And believe it or not, there’s a group of people (5%) who actually pray for celebrities they admire.

The findings clearly show that the prayers people say today are not only focused on asking God for healing. The reasons for praying now varies, and among many Americans, it is their families they mainly pray for.

In the survey, however, it wasn’t specified how many of them actually say a prayer for marriage. Do Americans pray for their marriage?

Do people pray for marriage?

A Pewforum statistics showed that 19,243 married individuals, which comprised 52 percent of the total participants in the survey, actually pray everyday.  Although the findings did not cite the reasons for their prayers, perhaps it is safe to assume that they do pray for marriage considering the fact that they are married.

I believe married people do pray for their marriage. With all the difficulties and struggles that each man and woman have to face throughout the course of their marriage, they can find sanctuary in the church or object of their worship. However, not all married individuals have discovered this haven yet.

Perhaps, many husbands and wives still skew the effects of praying in marriage. Well, it’s possible that their doubts arose from claims debunking the famous saying “The family (couple) that prays together, stays together.” Like this intriguing study by the Barna Research Group.

In the aforementioned research, it was found that the divorce rate in Christian groups is higher compared to in Atheists’ and Agnostics’. However, even before these findings surfaced the internet, the effects of prayers are punctured with mere assumptions. It appears that scientific researches cannot tell whether praying actually impacts the lives of people or not.

Be that as it may, the church and many religious groups still believe in the power of prayers for marriage. I, myself, am also a believer in the wonders that praying can yield.

On the day of my wedding, I sent God one of the longest prayers I have ever made. I prayed for my marriage, my husband, and myself.

I knew back then that I had to talk to God to let Him know the inner desires of my heart. And to celebrate Him with gratitude for the last three decades of showering me with countless blessings, including my marriage.

I believe saying a prayer for marriage is important. Let me state the reasons why. Read on!

Why do we need to pray for marriage?

1.Research says highly religious Americans are generally happier.

A Pew Research Center survey suggested that people who are highly religious are generally happier with how their lives are going. Around 40 percent of the surveyed participants said that they are “very happy” with their lives now. These individuals who claimed to pray every day and regularly partake in religious services are also more involved with their families.

2.Prayer unites a couple’s spiritually before God.

“If two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them…” (Matthew 18:19).

Praying together brings two people in unity and agreement as two unique individuals can’t pray in a unified manner in the presence of disagreement. Through prayers, couples will achieve the spiritual unity that God designed for marriage.

3.Praying encourages forgiveness and more.

When couples pray together, they agree to a confession of their sins and the temptations they need help resisting. This fosters forgiveness between the couples, which may also strengthen their bond as a result.

4.Couples who service together have higher marital satisfaction.

It is said that couples who share the same faith and those who partake in church services together achieve a higher marital satisfaction. Significantly, people who pray together and read the bible together at home showed an even higher satisfaction in marriage. These shared religious practices are also believed to be “predictors of a strong marriage.”

Prayer for Marriage

Well, the above shows just some of the importance of praying for marriage. There are a lot more success stories we can hear from highly religious individuals who have succeeded the battles within their marriage through their faith. They sure have countless reasons to share why we need to say a prayer for marriage.

But what prayers can you say for your marriage every night? Here are some bible passages you can reflect on before saying your prayer for marriage.

1.“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9)

Dear God, we trust that you see us and know what we are going through. May your love strengthen and give us the courage we need to cope with our life’s struggles.

2.”By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.” (Proverbs 24:3-4)

Oh God, teach us to look upon your power through every difficulty my spouse and I face together. We want to be filled with your wisdom and live by Your words.

3.“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.” (Galatians 5:22-23)

God, remind us always of your great love for all people. Shield our hearts and minds from discouragement.

4.“Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither—whatever they do prospers.” (Psalm 1:1-3)

God, separate me and my spouse from all companies of evil.

5.“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

Oh God, we want our marriage to be healed. Heal us and guide us to Your way.

6.“As a young man marries a young woman, so will your Builder marry you; as a bridegroom rejoices over his bride, so will your God rejoice over you.” (Isaiah 62:5)

We trust, oh God, that You joined us for Your purpose. We will listen to your voice and obey you.

7.“Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness.” (Psalm 37:3)

Let our faith become sight, oh God. We believe that You are able to restore us and allow our marriage to be the light for others to see Your way.

8.“May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Romans 15:5-6)

Dear God, may Your peace and love reign in our home.

9.“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

God, we know that the threats in our marriage are nothing compared to Your power. Train us to hear Your voice and do as You will without hesitation.

10.“Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” (Psalm 51:10)

Dear God, make us a vessel of Your love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and  gentleness.

11.“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 14:4-8)

Oh God, teach me to love my spouse the way You love me. May we be able to fulfill Your plans for our lives.

Conclusion

Marriage is incredibly hard. It is a course full of opposites – agreement and disagreement, happiness and sadness, and ups and downs.

But despite that, marriage is beautiful. You just have to handle it correctly.

When you feel like everything’s becoming a pain in the neck, ask for help and say a prayer for marriage at night. You would be surprised at the difference it can make.

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