13 Things That I Need to Tell My Future Husband Before We Marry

It is always a great feeling to know that you are getting married to the man of your dreams. You will be spending all your days in each other’s arms. You can express your love even more after you marry. But before you say “I do,” you should remember that the two main foundations of any relationship are honesty and communication. You should be open to your husband even before your marriage.

13 Things That You Need to Tell Your Future Husband:

1.I don’t care about the past.

The moment you allow your man to be part of your life, you are accepting all of him as a person. Even though you won’t say it, you still want to know about his past. You are interested to hear about his exes and his relationships. You may ask about it just to know the part of him when he was not in your life yet.

But the one thing that you should assure him is that you do not care about his past. All you want to nurture is your current relationship. All you foresee is the laughter that you both will have in marriage, the fun times when you are together, and the bond that will only get stronger as the years go by.

2.My birthdays should not always be grand.

Your birthdays will come to pass every year. But you should not expect every birthday to become a grand celebration. Work may sometimes interfere. Forgetfulness and busyness may also come into play. Tell him that you will understand. You will not expect a big surprise party or an expensive gift. All that you wish for is to be in love year after year.

3.I will keep my identity after marriage.

Before you get married, you should let your future husband know that your identity will be intact even after you get married. You will still be yourself. What you are, as long as it will not affect the relationship, will stay unbroken. You need to keep that love for yourself in marriage. Just like what Katy Perry said, first and foremost, self-love, and then give love away.

4.Our interests don’t need to fit.

Before you and your husband met, you had your own hobbies. You may love watching movies while he does not. You may enjoy eating at the best Italian restaurants in the US, while your husband prefer Mexican cuisines. You need to tell him that your interests don’t need to be a perfect fit. As long as you respect each other’s likes, you are all good.

5.I have a family. You don’t need to love them. But you have to respect them.

Your dad and your mom are the first people who cared for you and loved you. You are not asking him to give them the same love that you have for them. But you should ask your future husband to at least respect them as people and as his wife’s family.

6.I don’t expect you to stay the same.

It was the Greek philosopher Heraclitus who said that change is the only constant in life. The man who is in front of you on the day of your wedding will surely change after three years, after five years and even after 10 years. Tell him that it is okay. Say that to him that you understand. And voice to him that you will also change in time.

Change is good, as long as you communicate. You should just be open to each other if there are some changes that you don’t like. Ask him if it will be fine for him to compromise.

7.Tell him whether you like pets or not.

You should be honest about this at the onset. This is one of the most common conflicts that arises for a married couple. If you like pets and he doesn’t, ask him if he is willing to work something out.

What if you are the one who doesn’t like pets? If he already had a pet before you get married, then you should strike a deal on what to do with the pet. If he doesn’t have one yet, then you may request that he not get one.

8.I can get emotional sometimes.

Are you watching a depressing movie? Or a sad commercial? There are just some things that can make you cry at the spur of the moment. It may baffle him and he may think that it is his fault. Assure him that nothing is wrong. You cry because you only need to express your feelings.

9.I don’t always need a solution. Sometimes, all I need is someone to listen to me.

When you tell him about a sob story or a difficulty that you are having, it doesn’t always mean that you are looking for a solution. Sometimes, all you need is someone who will listen to you. Tell him to put down whatever he is doing, look intently to your eyes, and just lend his ears to you.

10.I will be your most honest critic, but I will also be the first to root for you.

Show him that you will support him every step of the way. Tell him not to get hurt when you criticize him. You say these words because you want him to be the best that he can be. But tell him also that you will be there, cheering him on in everything he does.

11.Kiss me even when everybody is looking.

You want him to be proud of you. You want him to hold your hand when you ride the train or take a cab. Say to him that you will not flinch if he wants to kiss you in public. Let him show everyone how happy he is to be your husband. Because that is how you feel about him.

12.Thank you for being my best friend.

Before you started dating, I know that you confided to him all the problems that you had in your life. He has been there when you got drunk. He continued to accompany you when you were singing at the coffee shop or dancing on the beach. He was always there with you in good times and in bad.

You must thank him for being your best friend. Take time to appreciate him because he cared for you even before you become his wife.

13.I don’t want to give up, even if I say I do.

Richard Gere in Runaway Bride said it all. He said in his proposal that he guarantees that there will be tough times. And at some point, one or the two of you will want to get out of the marriage. But he also said that if he doesn’t marry her, he’s going to regret it for the rest of his life.

Before you get married, you must say this to your future husband. Tell him that there will be parts of the marriage where it’s going to be very rough. You may, at one or more times, say that you want to give up on your marriage. But the truth is, deep in your heart, you really want to hang out and work things out.


Love may happen in an instant. Or it may develop over time. Whatever your situation or circumstance is, it is always best to be open and communicate with your husband. Everything will be okay as long as you talk to each other. All your faults and problems can be overcome; you just need to say what you feel and do what needs to be done. My last tip to tell your future husband before you marry? Tell him, “I will love you for the rest of my life. Hold on. I will never let go.”