Love is something that should be felt by a person at least once in his or her life. We need to love and be loved because this is an emotion and feeling that is innate in us. But what if fate becomes a little tricky and a married man falls in love with you? What should you do?
The first thing that you should do is to be sure about it first. A few kind acts of goodness can be misinterpreted as love. Take a look at these telltale signs that a married man is in love with you:
- He does not like to talk about his family with you.
His main topics when you are around are often about himself, about work, or about you. He mentions little about his wife or his children. This is because talking about family will instantly put a boundary between him and you.
- He loves spending time with you.
You can easily see this if he wants to be with you at any opportunity. His focus is to get as much alone time with you as he can. If he can do business trips with you, he will do it.
- He wants to know everything about you.
He asks about your relationships, about where you go home, and just about everything related to you. He is so interested in you that he even inquires about the most personal details about you.
- He becomes overprotective of you.
You can instantly see the changes in body language when he is with you. He guards you against male office workers. And he puts limits between other men and you. You will also hear negative comments about other employees that want to attempt to be close to you.
- He contacts you even after office hours.
A dinner invitation or a phone call can be normal. But if he is not your officemate and your topic of conversation is anything but work, then it can be a sign that the married man is in love with you.
- There is sexual tension.
This is something that is a little inexplicable. You will feel that the married man that you normally talk to acts differently toward you. He may feel that there is something more than just the usual connection. He feels very deeply toward you.
- He removes his wedding ring when he is around you.
He feels restricted when he wears his wedding ring. When you are in the vicinity, he tends to slip off his wedding ring to make himself feel available to you.
These are just a few signals that a married man is in love with you. If he cannot contain his emotions, then eventually he will tell you that he loves you.
What Should Do if A Married Man in Love with Me?
1.Picture yourself with him.
What is it like dating or having a relationship with a married man? Will you always hide so that no one will see that you are going out with each other? What will you do when his wife finds out? What if he has kids to take care of?
Building a relationship with a married man involves a lot of complexities and complications. Falling in love with a normal guy is hard enough. How much more difficult will it be when you connect yourself with a married man? You will not only have to deal with him, but you will also have to contend with those that are related to him like his wife and children.
2.Talk to him about it.
Once he tells you directly that he loves you, you must ask him what his plans are. It is better to learn about his next move before any emotion or feelings about him develop. Ask him about his family. If he plans to pursue you, question him about his wife. Are they undergoing divorce? Or does he just want to play around?
Before you fall in love with him, you have to establish the things that he will do when you get together. A relationship with a married man should not be started unless divorce papers are being finalized and he has the documents to prove it. It is better to have a relationship with a divorced man than a married man. After all, according to the statistics from CDC, 3.2 per 1000 population undergo divorce in the US.
3.Be alert to his deception
Promises can be handed to you just to make you love him back. He may say that he is leaving his wife for you. Or his wife doesn’t treat him the way a husband should be regarded. Or he doesn’t get the respect that he deserves. These can give you the emotional attachment that can make you closer to him. You should keep your mind and your heart guarded against a man who will do or say anything to get you.
4.Ask his opinion on marriage.
The best way to evaluate his feelings is by knowing his concept of marriage. Should a married man involve himself with someone like you? Should he instead protect the sanctity of marriage and fix his relationship with his wife? If he can treat his wife this way, what is stopping him from treating you this way in the future?
If he does plan on leaving his wife, then you should ask him why it hasn’t happened yet. What is he waiting for? Does he think that loving another woman aside from his wife is right?
5.Ask about his kids.
Having kids can be a delightful gift if you are married. But if you have to cover up your situation just to get closer to a woman, then it can be difficult to be in that situation going forward.
If you are getting into a relationship with a married man, even if his wife is no longer around, you still have to deal with the children. Knowing more about his kids will definitely put your circumstance in a rational perspective.
6.Know that affairs with a married man are not always physical.
Affairs can exist in different types. Extramarital relations are not only limited to sex. You can still be in affairs with a married man even if there is no sex involved. This particular type of affair means emotional connections.
You feel sorry for the guy. You care for the married man. And you want to feed your emotional needs by talking and being with him. It is best to know this before allowing a married man to enter your life.
7.Avoid him altogether.
Having relations with a married man may bring pleasure at first, but in the long-term, it will be more of a hassle than an inspiration. The best way to deal with a married man who is in love with you is to avoid him at all costs. Don’t talk to him and remove any connection with him. Unfriend him on social media. Delete his phone number in your phone. Keep your distance from him.
If you are not careful, you may unknowingly be developing a relationship with a married man by the way you interact with him. Once you establish the truth about his feelings for you, you should not have any communication with him at all.
But there may be cases where you cannot avoid him. This situation may occur in your work where the married man is your officemate. You can do three things to solve this problem. The first thing you can do is ask him to initiate his own transfer. If he does not oblige, you can ask for a reassignment of position to another department where you can go throughout your day without meeting him. The third and most drastic option is resigning from your work.
You can have any man that you want in your life. With all the difficulties and stress that it will bring to you and your relationship, I would highly recommend that you just do not get yourself involved with a married man. It is not legal. It can hurt his wife and his kids. It can even hurt you as a person. In the end, many will be affected by a relationship with a married man.
Keep your character and your integrity intact by staying away from a married man. Don’t let emotions control you. Love should be exchanged between people with no ties to another. It should just exist for two people, nothing more.