A lot of factors may cause distance in your marriage. Arguments, discussions, jealousy and other tensions are just some things and situations that can make you grow apart in the relationship. As a wife, you do not want to prolong the agony of not loving and being loved. Sometimes, we need to take matters into our own hands.
Here are some ways on how to make your husband love you again.
Date Your Husband.
One of the best ways to soothe the emotions of your husband is by dating him. Men, generally, do not like making plans. I should know. My husband is your typical man. He often forgets important dates and events. And it takes him so much effort to plan a surprise date night for me.
Since you want to restore the love in the relationship, you can prepare a nice date night for the two of you. As women, we often like to have a date that we prefer, like dinner in a fancy restaurant or an overnight in a hotel. This time, it will be different.
Think of all the things that your husband likes. If he likes sports, then watching a live football or basketball game would be great. If he likes hiking or swimming, then you should set up all you need for the activity and tell him that you want to spend time with him.
A relationship can be built through face-to-face and shoulder-to-shoulder. This is closely associated with how men and women want to be intimate with one another.
Face-to-face closeness means spending time with one another through talking and communication. Women generally love this way of getting intimacy from their partner. Because women feed on the getting their emotions and love tanks being filled up, they want face-to-face closeness with their husband.
It is very different when it comes to men. They love the shoulder-to-shoulder way of being close to their wives. Shoulder-to-shoulder means doing activities together. This is particularly true for things that husbands love doing.
If they can do activities that they like, let’s say sports or watching movies, with the person that they love, like their wives, it will be a great date experience for them.
Make the Sex Great Again.
Men love sex. Women also do. But they are stimulated differently in order to arrive at physical intimacy. Men are very visual when it comes to sex. If their eyes and other senses are stimulated, they will be more than willing to make love with you.
Sex can be a problem for some couples, especially those who have been married for quite a number of years. Yes, the sex is still there. But the longingness and eagerness have been gone for a long time.
How can wives entice our husbands to enjoy sex again? Well, it starts with how we look and how we take care of ourselves. Since our husbands relate to physical senses when it comes to being stimulated, you need to be physically appealing to him.
Fix yourself up. If you have not had a good haircut for some time, then go to your trusted salon and ask for a nice one. You should also dress for your husband. Being comfortable with your husband does not give you permission to let yourself go. This is especially true for stay-at-home moms. Do your makeup, pick up some good-looking shirts and dresses and surprise your husband.
The next step is preparing him for sex. What does this mean? You can flirt with him throughout the day so that he will be so excited about coming home to you. You can send him some texts about what you will do to him. You can also call him. The sky is the limit when it comes to ideas for flirting with your husband.
The last thing that you need to understand is the sexual act itself. Make the sex memorable again. Give him the experience of a lifetime every time you do it. It can take a lot of effort to give him the fullness of you. But of course, you should both enjoy every minute of it.
Travel with Him.
Have you watched the Amazing Race before? This is a reality game show where couples get to travel around the world as they vie for the coveted prize. As I watch this show, I often see that travel can really build the relationship up.
What you can do is to take time off from your work and book a nice hotel far from your home and office. Get yourself out of the noise of the usual commute and job. Your goal here is to find some intimate time alone with your husband.
Start from scratch. Get to know your husband again. Chances are, you have not really been talking for quite some time if you do not feel love from him. Learn more about who he is, what his dreams are, and what his goals and plans are. By showing your interest and love for him, he will recognize and remember the same feeling that he has for you.
Going to a forest cabin, a beautiful beach or a foreign country can rekindle the lost love that you have for each other. Get to know nature or a new culture as you mend the relationship that you have for each other.
Respect Your Husband.
Aside from love, your husband wants to have respect. He should be respected in every aspect of his life. That is why our husbands do everything that they can to gain respect everywhere they are—in their jobs, in public, and even in the home.
If you do not give him respect, then the love could eventually dissipate in the long run. As long as you respect your husband in your life as a couple, then there is always a place for love to blossom.
What if you did not know that concept before? What if you are not giving the respect that your husband wants? Well, there is always hope. If you want to bring back the love from your husband, then you have to put your best effort to give respect to him.
How will you do it? You can do this by letting him decide on the things that matter. Get his opinion on important issues and let his judgment stand. If you do not think that he is making the right decision, you can still voice out your side. But if he gives his final word, then respect him and follow what he says.
You have a lot of ways to appreciate your husband. You can give praises to his work or job, his personality, his attributes, his life as a husband, or his ways as a loving father to your kids. A man who is appreciated will reciprocate this act with his own form of appreciation to his wife.
You can appreciate your husband in front of him, in front of his friends, in front of your friends, and even without his presence. He will definitely enjoy hearing nice words from you about the way he looks or the way he carries himself.
He will also feel great is he is appreciated in front of other people. It will give him a certain level of joy when he knows that you are truly proud of him.
Try New Things Together.
A life full of excitement can reignite the love from your husband again. You can recommend new things to try for yourselves as a couple. Have you tried scuba diving or bungee jumping? Do you love exotic food? You can try any of these things so that you can develop new memories in your marriage.
Must it be this drastic or foreign? No. It does not matter how exciting or new an activity is, as long as you do these things together. Remember, your focus here is to enjoy your lives again and restore the love.
It will take a lot of your time and energy to make your husband love you again. But being married, in itself, require time and energy. You just have to remind yourself that you have chosen this man to be with for the rest of your life. Yes, there are struggles. Yes, there are fights between the two of you. But no marriage is perfect.
Some circumstances may just cause your husband to not show his love to you anymore. But that does not necessarily mean that he does not love you anymore. Do everything you can to support him and make him fall in love with you again. He will eventually recognize your efforts and love you back.