Difference Between a Contract and the Covenant of Marriage

People get into marriage for various reasons. No matter what persuaded you to change your mind from singlehood to coupling, one thing is for sure. You are already bonded and connected to your spouse in everything you do and in any place you go. You are now known as someone who is “the husband of” or “the wife of” another person.

You have to choose whether your marriage with another person is a contract or a covenant. A covenant marriage is the greatest gift that you can give your partner each and every day. Show your utmost care, understanding and respect for your spouse by providing him or her with a covenantal marriage. He or she deserves to be loved back. Time must be spent, emotions must be invested, and plans must be shared.

You need to ask yourself these questions in order to know which type of marriage you are in right now.

Do You Love Your Spouse?

If you love your husband or wife, I can say that you are in a covenant marriage. You are not in it for any other reason than just to be with him or her for the rest of your lives. It does not matter what each of you does, or how much money you earn for the family. What counts is the relationship and the love that you want to give him or her.

Do You Care About The Bank Account of Your Spouse?

It is not wrong to look out for your own welfare when getting married. You and I probably want to be with someone who is responsible and who will help us in managing the finances of the house.

But wanting to get married for the sole reason of wanting the riches of your spouse is a different matter. Love is not present in the relationship. You want to be in a legal contract with this person in order to get his or her money.

A covenant marriage overlooks the financial status of the person. You are both establishing new lives together as married people. It can be a new beginning for both of you. Instead of focusing on what you will get, you are putting your mind to what you can achieve as a couple.

Do You Look Forward to What You can Offer Your Husband or Wife?

A covenant marriage is more of an outward expression than an inward motivation. You want to give love, which is why you want to get married to this particular person. Of course, you want to get the same kind of care that you give your spouse. But people in covenant marriages do not measure the amount of benefit they receive in the relationship.

You want to offer time, affection, appreciation, and service to your spouse. Giving time means prioritizing him or her over your work or interests. Affection means being physically and emotionally intimate with your spouse.

Showing your appreciation is going out of your way to regularly compliment your partner and making him or her feel special even if they think that they are not. A covenant marriage also means being available and of service to him or her as much as possible.

Are You Willing to Forgive?

A contract usually has a set of requirements that must be met for it to be fulfilled and continued. Once one or both parties decide not to follow the contents of the contract, the agreement becomes useless and void.

A covenant is different in the way that your spouse can break their vows and promises once or multiple times and you still choose to stay in it. You are willing to forgive and give your partner another chance to redeem himself.

Forgiveness is naturally difficult for most people, because we often lookout for ourselves more. We tend to get angry when the other side of the deal is not being met. But a covenant marriage is built out of love for each other. You will learn to forgive your spouse because that is what a loving person does.

Do You Want to Sweat It Out and Not Let Go of Your Relationship with Your Spouse, No Matter What?

A covenant marriage means making a promise to someone to be with him or her for the rest of your lives. It is a sacred vow that you will cherish and adhere to no matter what happens and whatever season you are into.

Giving up is not part of your vocabulary. You have made a covenant with this person and you are willing to exhaust all efforts to make it all work. Your goal is to continually build your relationship and make sure that your foundations are intact. Getting out of the marriage is not an option for you. You want to fix problems, discuss any issues or concerns, and stick it out with your spouse.

You decided that you are in it for the long haul. You love your spouse and your only desire is to continuously build your relationship.

Related Question

Is marriage a covenant or a contract? The answer to this question will depend highly on how you see marriage. 

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